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The start thing I can call back clearly was sitting in a hospital room in the nighttime.

I knew something was wrong — that in that location was something wrong with me — and yet, I couldn't tell exactly what. I realized the left side of my face was numb. Hanging on the wall in front of me was a television, but there was something wrong with it too. A ghostly copy was superimposed over the standard fix; it was rotated at roughly a 15-degree angle and faded abroad into the burnt cream walls. Is the TV the problem, or is it me?

My mother and a nurse wearing scrubs entered from the left, a disorienting place outside of my field of vision.

"That'due south our girl," my mom said, approaching my bed. "How are you lot doing today?"

Why was she so nonchalant? Why wasn't she worried? Considering the haphazard inventory I had just taken, I probably should take demanded answers or cursed a bit. Raised some hell. Instead, I replied with an uncertain "… proficient," slightly alarmed that she, too, possessed a ghostly, tilted imprint. When I was young, my mother always went on, at length, about the difficulties of raising my decumbent-to-tantrums, bang-his-head-on-the-physical-when-aroused older brother. Then, turning to me, she'd say, "But you, yous're so easy. And calm. And y'all never mutter." I approximate that hadn't inverse. I wanted to inquire her what was happening — and where I was. Instead, I swept my arm in front of me and, trying to detect out what would happen next, said, "And at present?"

Earlier she answered, another character entered from the hallway, but this ane I couldn't place. Adequately immature — my age, by the look of him — his youth was accentuated by a clean-shaven chin under full, feminine lips and a baseball cap perched precariously on his caput, in a higher place his boyish confront. He had the expect of a perpetually surprised toddler, lips slightly parted in wonder and marvel.

"At present you have physical therapy," he commented.

The physical therapist, a blonde woman with chin-length hair, stepped in from stage correct, clipboard in hand and a laminated badge dangling from a lanyard around her neck. When she entered, the nurse left, non wanting to crowd the room.

The physical therapist pushed a rolling walker to the border of my bed and beckoned me to rise. My initial movements were the finish-motility stutter of a crude animation. I reached for one of the walker'due south handles. And missed. The double image layered on elevation of what I thought was the actual walker jutted out awkwardly in a management that led me to believe it couldn't exist the real one — was I wrong? I tried once more. Yep, I was wrong.

"Are y'all OK? Ready to stand?" the concrete therapist asked.

Planting my feet shoulder-width autonomously, clinging to my walker, I clambered to a standing position — I'm generous when I use that phrase. Between my shaking limbs, bent knees and outstretched artillery, I must've looked more like a fellow member of a seniors' Pilates course than the 25-twelvemonth-sometime woman I presumed myself to still be. Everything, including myself, felt familiar yet foreign, an already-read book revisited accidentally. An eerie sense of déjà vu — my ain personal uncanny valley, then familiar merely not the same.

"OK, Brooke." The concrete therapist then addressed my mother and her companion. "We'll be back in 45 minutes."

The therapist led me down a long hallway lined with other rooms and other patients. Every few feet, the therapist paused and waited for me to inch toward her, patiently watching with a stock-still smiling for the stop-move hermit crab to scuttle closer.

"Now just a lilliputian further to the lift," the therapist said, pulling me back to the task at hand. I had just discovered I was having issues multitasking: Whenever I started thinking too much, I couldn't walk.

My god, I thought, I am exhausted and we're not fifty-fifty where we're going yet.

When we finally reached the lift, I stepped inside, at the therapist's behest.

"I feel similar I know you," my voice hissed out of my mouth similar a barely audible stream of gas. A death rattle that fabricated syllables and managed to class words.

At first, I wasn't sure she had heard whatever had escaped my pharynx. Her back, however facing me, seemed crystallized in position. Finally, she turned and looked at me for a long moment. When the elevator doors dinged close, she took a deep breath and sighed.

"I'thousand Linda."

"My granddaddy's girlfriend has your name."

Linda'due south rima oris tightened, merely her eyes softened.

"I know. I've introduced myself to you well-nigh every mean solar day for the past 2 weeks."

Luckily, my memories started to stick later on that disconcerting moment with the TV. Unluckily, weeks had already elapsed since I had been admitted to the hospital, some of which time I'd been comatose. I started receiving diverse stories about what had happened. Some true, some, I would eventually come up to realize, fiction.

One mean solar day, shortly later I'd started to call up Linda the therapist, the boy with the childlike face and artless hat — I'll call him Stanley here — slipped into the hospital bed with me. Alarmed, but oddly conceited, I said zero, even as he leaned close to me and whispered into my ear, "I've been telling everyone that I'thou your fellow."

"Yeah, OK."

Hadn't this happened before? Him divulging he was my swain … it felt familiar. How many times had this happened?

"OK," he parroted and turned to Naked and Agape on the TV.

"My face is numb."

"Yeah, you've been saying that."

"That screen is double."

"Yeah, y'all've been proverb that too."

"What happened?"

Stanley cocked his head to the side similar a confused dog and considered my question — or at to the lowest degree, I figured he was considering information technology. Maybe he was worried about me. Mayhap my well-being concerned him.

"What exercise you retrieve?" he asked me.

"Y'all moved your stuff into my room." I knew this had happened, fifty-fifty though I hadn't realized information technology a moment before. But I remembered that particular and I knew I knew him. In what capacity? His claim to exist my beau didn't feel right — it couldn't have been romantic. Wasn't I just doing him a favor?

His already round, wide optics widened further. He pursed his lips and diverted his gaze.

"Y'all immune me to motility into your apartment temporarily." Stanley paused. "That's the terminal matter you call up? And you don't remember what you had been doing that solar day?"

"What mean solar day?"

Stanley let out a huff of air in exasperation. He shook his caput in exaggerated impatience, rolling his eyes.

"The day yous and Cassie climbed a redwood nigh the trailer park and you lot fell 25 feet out of it."

According to my mother, in the early days of my hospitalization, every time Stanley entered my hospital room and announced himself to the doctors and nurses as my boyfriend, I threw out an arm in a warped fake of Vanna White and exclaimed, "I approximate I take a beau now." Cue Pat Sajak chortling good-naturedly.

It came back to me early, distinctly, that he had never wanted to be my boyfriend before this.

But whenever I broached the subject, Stanley told me he hadn't known what he wanted before, simply uncertain of whether I would live or die, he became enlightened of how he felt. My skepticism remained even every bit my retention wavered.

Yet, he showed up each 24-hour interval, and I began to believe him when he said his feelings had inverse. Trapped in my bed and visited by therapists I only partially knew and family members I merely vaguely recognized, information technology was overnice to have someone else come see me and practice word puzzles in bed with me, fifty-fifty if I didn't always retrieve who he was right away.

Other friends of mine who came to run across me in the infirmary were wary of Stanley, merely his insistence on his right to exist there and his role in my life stifled any objections that even my best friend, Sam, thought to make. My mother and I had always communicated infrequently well-nigh my romantic endeavors. Coping as best she could, she remained intoxicated nigh of the time I was in the hospital and didn't question Stanley'southward version of events. Later, she said I seemed similar I wanted him in that location.

When I was released from the hospital, I couldn't walk without an arm crutch, and my memory was withal far from intact. Santa Clara Medical Center insisted I get out in a wheelchair, and I was wheeled out to Stanley's car. He said we'd decided together that he'd move to San Diego with me. With no memory of the original conversation, I believed him, simply I felt overwhelmed.

Following the seven-hour bulldoze to North County San Diego, I told my mom I didn't want to live with him. And although Stanley repeatedly hinted he should stay at my parents' home, my mom put her pes down and said Stanley couldn't alive with u.s..

Then he got a recruiting job and a room nearby. On weekdays after getting off work, he'd walk through the side gate without announcing he was coming. On one particular day in tardily fall, 2 months after my hospital stay, he came into the lawn while I skimmed messages on Facebook that I'd received equally an inpatient.

I had been talking to our mutual friend, Cassie (I've inverse her name here, as well equally Stanley'due south), from higher. Nosotros'd been exchanging messages on Facebook, and while looking at our chat, I saw an older message she'd sent me, while I was in the infirmary, which I had no memory of.

"Cassie messaged me while I was in Santa Clara," I mentioned to Stanley, my eye notwithstanding fixed on the screen. "I said you joked effectually, proverb yous hoped my retentiveness stayed dumb, and she replied, 'Is there something he doesn't want you to remember?'"

I laughed. Stanley didn't.

"Why do you think that'due south funny?" he demanded, pulling the laptop toward him. He didn't sit downward. "Why would yous tell her that?" He shoved the laptop away and placed his hands on either side of his head. "Why would you say that to her?"

"Hey, relax," I grunted while using both the table and chair to pull myself to a continuing position. Once facing him, I added, "I don't see what the problem is."

"You don't — you don't — " Livid, Stanley couldn't seem to express himself through his rage.

Instead of walking abroad or going inside, I simply stood and watched him stutter as his face up flushed until he finally formulated words. And male child, what words they were.

"What is wrong with you?" he started. "Here I am, doing everything I can to assistance yous — sticking around when we thought you were going to die, staying when yous were r*tarded, not leaving when we weren't sure if you'd go ameliorate. And I'm here now even though — await at you." He paused to wave a hand from my short pilus to my blank anxiety.

Incapable of speaking, I retreated through the sliding drinking glass door into the kitchen. All of the words I wanted to say slithered through my listen, broken, disconnected. Simply nothing came from me.

"And you might be like this forever! And instead of telling Cassie how supportive I've been, you say that to her? Why couldn't you lot accept told her how skillful I've been to you — trying to make y'all expect like less of a mess, getting your hair cut, taking you to get your face waxed because it was icky."

Equally he spoke, he encroached on my space, stepping forward until his face was less than a few inches from mine. His hands notwithstanding flapped in the air to either side; I think he may have wanted to grab me by the shoulders but refrained. Information technology wasn't until he vibrated each paw on the left and right side of my face up that I realized I was shaking as well.

Stanley pulled his hands back, made a noise that sounded like a mixture of an exasperated moan and a frustrated yelp. Finally, he stomped out of my parents' kitchen like a schoolboy suffering a tantrum. All I heard adjacent was the gate slamming behind him.

Later, he pretended we'd never had that interaction — I only brought it up one time in the following days, and he insisted he didn't know what I was referring to.

Thousandore than ii years before I woke up disoriented in the infirmary, information technology was the beginning of my "junior" schoolhouse year at the University of California, Santa Cruz (UCSC). All of the out-of-town transfer students over the age of 22 were corralled on the offset floor of the transfer dorm. That dorm became a haven for all of us who had spent our postal service-loftier school years not attention college. Merely we had finally pulled together those community college units to gain admittance to a 4-twelvemonth school. And by God, we were celebrating.

Cue the night after we all moved in: Anybody left their dorm doors propped open and flitted from room to room, taking a shot here, nabbing a plastic loving cup of our hallmate Cassie'due south homemade vino there. Everyone except me. Stationed at the school-supplied prefab wooden desk underneath my bunk bed sans lesser bunk, I was drinking whiskey and playing music from a USB-connected speaker.

"Anyone dislike Tom Waits?" I shouted in the general direction of the bodies amassed in my room. "All right, well, that's what we're gonna listen to now."

Amidst the gyrating bodies, a short guy in a blue baseball cap, skirt pushed up jauntily, slid forward with an elbow pointing at me. He looked too young to be drinking.

"I like Tom Waits," he offered. "I'm Stanley."

"Let me guess," I snapped, "you like Pelting Dogs. That's fine 'northward all, but nosotros're going to mind to some real sad shit right now."

Later, Stanley would divulge his beginning impression of me: feet upwardly on my desk, pugging whiskey direct from the bottle and ranting to him most Tom Waits. He thought I was a bitch. And I would tell him that I idea he was a disrespectful asshole. That didn't stop him, afterwards our initial coming together, from borer on my dorm door every 24-hour interval, asking if I wanted to become walk in the forest or mount biking. And it didn't cease me from taking a swig of my ever-present whiskey and replying, "Sure."

We weren't together, but nosotros weren't not together. Before we slept together, Stanley spent all of his time with me and stopped seeing all of the other women he had been involved with. Past the terminate of that start semester, we had slept together multiple times, met each other's family at Thanksgiving, and even so not talked about what, exactly, nosotros were doing. At the time, I didn't call back a conversation was necessary; I figured we had a admirer'south agreement and were on the aforementioned page: sectional but unserious.

Although nosotros lived on the same hallway, Cassie and I weren't specially close outside of the companionship provided by a mutual pastime: drinking. At the end of that yr in the transfer dorm together, nosotros all dispersed. Cassie moved into UC Santa Cruz'south on-campus trailer park — the one I'd fall out of a tree next to, a year after — and I constitute a room in an old Victorian on Mission, non far from Laurel Street and downtown.

Part of me figured Stanley wouldn't skulk effectually my door anymore, since we no longer lived a few feet abroad from each other. But certain enough, he ended up in a sublet off of Laurel Street and would rap on my window from the front end porch, softening his large brown eyes when I pulled back the blinds to see who it could be.

Ane day, Stanley, now sitting by that window at the computer chair and desk my sublet provided, broached a conversation we had never touched upon before, one I always avoided with everyone: acquaintances, bar patrons, friends — whatever Stanley was.

"How did you lose your virginity? I remember when I lost mine … "

For the life of me, if y'all asked me how Stanley lost his virginity, I wouldn't exist able to tell y'all anything about information technology. I stopped listening after his initial question.

"Are you OK?"

Stanley'due south genial marvel caught me off guard.

"Yeah, I was but … thinking."

"You don't look OK." He came over and saturday next to me on the sublet'southward twin bed. A wood frame painted white housed a run-of-the-mill mattress, neither soft nor hard. Stanley peered into my optics incredulously, daring me to confirm what I could see him working out in his listen. Then I did.

"It, uh, wasn't my choice."

"Do you call up his proper name?"

And I said it for the first time in nearly 10 years. I don't know how I wanted Stanley to react. I don't know what I wanted him to do — peradventure nod? Maybe ask if I wanted a drink? Oh, God, I wanted a drink. The previous night, I had polished off my bedside whiskey and hadn't had the chance to walk to the liquor shop earlier Stanley popped over. But I know I didn't desire him to do what he did.

Immediately, he bounded to the computer and opened Facebook.

"And this was in San Diego? OK, allow me encounter."

And and then he began clicking on profiles and muttering to himself, "No, as well young. Couldn't be this one. Hmm, new to the area — no. You lot don't know his concluding name?" Stanley glanced over at me and then stopped touching the computer.

At the time, I didn't have the vocabulary, but now I can describe how I felt — confused, disoriented, overwhelmed. I heard the words, I understood them, but none of them stuck with me. It's nearly like tunnel vision, but the contrary seems to happen — everything expands and your field of vision contains too much and none of it makes sense. Your optics h2o because everything feels overexposed and lacks detail.

I didn't notice him rejoin me on the bed or when he took my limp hand from my lap and held information technology. But I did hear him when he said, "I call back people identify as well much weight on a person's sexual history."

And so he kissed me gently and we had sexual practice, on a mattress that could take been difficult or soft or just fine. Only it hadn't been love — he felt pitiful for me. He insisted, afterward, that he cared about me, but he didn't want to exist together, couldn't be in a human relationship. And I understood considering, I felt, who would desire to be with me?

No one knew most this interaction, but I'k sure the leeway I gave Stanley despite the boundaries he crossed — because of his reaction to a truth I hated and then much — looked like love.

In the months after I left the infirmary, my memory slowly but surely came dorsum to me. I remembered all of this, about how I met Stanley and what our relationship was like before the blow. But I still had some questions. Some missing pieces — like how I could have let whatsoever of this happen.

"Icouldn't tell you before," said Cassie. "Because I thought you were in love with him. How could I tell yous what Stanley had done?"

This chat with Cassie took identify before I roughshod out of the tree, and information technology came back to me equally I gradually regained my retentiveness. Most seven months afterwards leaving the dorms, we were sitting at an outdoor table on the patio of UCSC's Kresge Café, where we often met to talk nigh the likes of Amiri Baraka or Jean Toomer for our poesy class. It was well into our second year at UCSC, our "senior year," that Cassie and I began hanging out consistently and (relatively) sober; Cassie had an elective slot open up, and I suggested she take a poetry class with me.

Cassie rubbed her left arm with her right hand only kept her eyes on mine.

It happened on Memorial 24-hour interval Weekend when nosotros all notwithstanding lived in the transfer dorms, she said. Simply a footling over half of a year before our meeting at the Kresge Café. Memorial Mean solar day had been a transfer dorm hallmate'south altogether and everyone had gone to Cowell's Beach to gloat — anybody except me. They left before I returned from — where had I been? I don't know. Drunk somewhere. Similar always.

Cassie described a beach bonfire. But so she and Stanley had run into the woods to detect firewood. She described Stanley slinging his arm around her neck, the aforementioned way he did to me. Cassie hadn't found this strange, and I didn't think she would — when he did this to me, I felt more like a "bro" than a romantic partner. It was when she fell down that things inverse.

She described them losing residual and toppling over a log. And so she told me Stanley started ripping down her pants and putting his mouth on her … I tin can't get there again.

"I told him to end and he did." Her vocalization trailed off as if, maybe, she should excuse him for the initial violation since he was then good at following instructions afterwards.

"I am … and so fucking angry — "

"This is why I didn't want to tell you," Cassie whispered. "I didn't desire you to detest me."

"No, no, no, no, no." The word tumbled out of my rima oris and wouldn't stop. "No, no, no." Maybe if I said it plenty, she'd know. "Non with y'all — you did null wrong — with him. With him. He's a fucking monster."

And I hated myself. Considering I had been awake, drunk but awake, when they returned. Everyone else clambered upstairs to continue the political party, but Stanley pulled me into his room and into his bed. After what he had done.

When Cassie told me all of this, Stanley had been studying abroad for months. Neither of us had heard from him in that time. I heard from other mutual friends he had a girlfriend of sorts.

A month after Cassie's revelation, Stanley commented on the UCSC trailer park'due south public page, a community Cassie was a function of, and received a harrowing response from a friend of Cassie's: We'd rather non have any sexual assaulters in our community, thanks.

Which, of course, caused Stanley to call me — the starting time time in nine months we'd had any contact.

"What is she maxim about me?" he shrieked.

"Not really certain who or what you're talking about."

"Don't play fucking dumb: Cassie. Information technology was an accident. I stopped. What is she telling people?"

I sighed and tried to continue an even tone. "Whatever happened, it obviously acquired her more harm than yous thought."

"You were raped," Stanley responded. It sounded more like an accusation than a annotate; it felt more like an accusation.

I didn't answer, and he connected. "Y'all know what real assault is like. Yous need to tell her. Call her right now and make sure you tell her. You have to tell her what it's actually like — that, what was his name? That the construction worker came into your room and held yous down and told y'all not to scream and forced his fucking — "

"Hey, hey, hey now." I didn't need the play-by-play. "I become it, I go it. Jesus."

And because information technology'south easier to shove your injure onto someone else than addressing the bleeding parts inside yourself, I chosen Cassie and did the worst thing I've ever done in my life: I told her information technology could have been worse.

"Cassie," my voice cracked as I told her everything and then said, "What Stanley did was inappropriate, but he stopped."

I north the months following my coma, these memories returned to me in desultory waves. I remembered, and then I convinced myself I must be misremembering, I must exist wrong. Stanley would storm out whenever I brought upwardly the past, merely to return the following 24-hour interval like nothing had happened, which made things even more disruptive.

But I finally called Cassie toward the stop of January 2016, 5 months after I had moved dorsum to San Diego. I wish I could say I had mustered the backbone a calendar month before, as soon as I realized there was something Stanley didn't want me to remember, merely how could I maybe tell her I remembered, that information technology had come back to me, and Stanley was still here?

"Cassie?" I asked quietly when a voice answered the phone. I stood in the backyard of my parents' house, the just place I could exist solitary.

"Brooke! It'south and then good to talk to you. How accept yous been? What happened?"

I told her everything: Santa Clara, Stanley, not knowing exactly what had happened.

"I called Stanley every bit soon as the ambulance took you abroad," Cassie said slowly, "I figured he would have contacted your family. The hospital had to find your parents' information? Why didn't Stanley call your parents?"

A foreboding sensation crept into my gut and my skin became cold and clammy. Information technology was overcast, typical Jan weather in San Diego, but far from cold.

"That night," she said, "we had made it to the top, at least 85 anxiety upwards, and you were actually confident — we were joking around — and so all of a sudden you looked at me and told me, 'I have to get down. Now.' And so you sped downward, and I think climbing to a lower branch before you lot fell is what saved your life."

"And," I started and and then stopped to moisten my rima oris — information technology had gone dry out — and eased myself down to sit on the concrete patio. "That's all that happened?"

"Well," Cassie added, "I did call up information technology was weird when I heard Stanley was still with you in San Diego. Before we climbed the tree that night, you were telling me how much you hated him. You had him buy a plane ticket back abode in front end of you to exist sure he was really leaving. He had only moved all of his shit into your room after his lease ended, and you wanted him gone."

"Cassie," I replied weakly.

"Well, it'southward good the two of you take worked things out. Information technology was just, y'know, weird."

It was true; my misgivings hadn't been unwarranted.

Stanley and I had been involved, but it was long over, and — equally usual — Stanley used me right when I thought I was rid of him. When he came dorsum from studying abroad, he stayed with me for about a week and insisted I mediate a conversation betwixt him and Cassie. (I did, and she said she wasn't going to press charges.) He plant his ain identify, simply then when the spring quarter ended and his sublease was upwards, he moved all his shit into my room; I protested but he insisted. I kept telling him that he needed to simply go home, only he continued to insist, over and over again, that he needed to stay to make sure "Cassie wasn't going to do anything."

I however have no memory of the night I fell out of the tree, just Cassie told me I had fabricated him buy a plane ticket in front of me to exist certain that he would leave.

After last our phone phone call, I remained seated on the ground outside. I felt stupid; I was stupid. Stanley had been disarming me he was doing me a favor, that I needed him. When really, he needed me. Still paranoid nearly what had happened with Cassie and his reputation, he had been using me to convince anybody he was a skilful person.

Acalendar week later my telephone call with Cassie, I was blistering cookies. Remembering the recipe, the measurements, the gild I needed to mix the ingredients, exercising my fine-motor skills to mix them — it was all good practice. It was all rehabilitating, my occupational therapist told me.

Next to the kitchen sink, my mom swirled a glass of champagne and said, about every bit if she were channeling it from some other aeroplane, "3 days into your blackout, Stanley told me nosotros should pull the plug on you lot."

Above the basin of carbohydrate and butter, my hands held a jar of peanut butter and an overlarge spoon, motionless. I stopped to expect at her, endmost one eye to gainsay the double vision the damage to my occipital lobe had acquired.

My mom averted her optics as she added, "And he would sit down forever and try to guess the code to your phone — he was desperate to go into it." Then she shrugged. "But you seemed similar you wanted him around …"

"When I was in a coma?" I asked.

My mom ignored this and said, "Stanley told me he knew you and knew what you'd desire."

Even knowing this, knowing my life had been disposable to him, I was too weak of a person to make him leave. Stanley kept coming past my parents' house every day, telling me I should stop focusing on rehabilitating my mind and should instead make my concrete appearance more highly-seasoned. Often, he'd drop me off at walk-in waxing salons, instructing them to make my face smooth, "less disgusting."

"I merely want to exist able to remember once again," I'd whisper after.

"This is probably the all-time you're going to get," he'd reply. "Yous need to have better care of yourself. Y'all have a lot of competition."

This obsession with outward aesthetics culminated in him taking me to Calaveras Mountain, a small mount in eastward Carlsbad, and bidding me to run to the acme.

"My concrete therapist said I shouldn't exercise any strenuous exercise without her … my torso even so tin't regulate temperature."

Stanley shot me a expect of disdain and hissed, "My stepdad is a physiatrist — I know what I'm talking most. I guess y'all don't actually want to get better."

Halfway up Calaveras, my double vision split up fifty-fifty further — something I didn't think was possible — and I felt bile rising in my esophagus. Taking a human knee, I put both hands onto the clay-covered path and threw up.

"My dad was never easy on me," Stanley solemnly whispered, a bizarre explanation for his deportment.

We walked the rest of the mode downwards.

"I think I need to go," Stanley finally said ane mean solar day.

"Exercise any you need to practise," I responded.

We were sitting at a Thai eating place in a strip mall. Across the manner, I had briefly worked as a hostess in a restaurant when I was newly 18; they tore it downward and built a Red Lobster in its identify.

"You're not upset?" He searched my face. "Would you want to stay together? You'd miss me."

I wondered who he was trying to convince.

"Yeah, we can stay together … even though yous tried to kill me."

Stanley reeled back equally if he had but been slapped. His feminine lips parted and his bottom jaw hung open, aghast.

Stanley, enraged, knocked over his tea. It had been virtually empty. The outrage felt performative; the spill theatrical. I was beginning to go a headache; I just wished someone would be honest with me — my mom, Stanley, anyone who had been there. Everyone wanted to protect themselves at my expense. I felt like a kid every time the thought "But what about me?" sprang into my head.

"I just meant if it got to that point — if you were going to be brain expressionless." His easily flailed and his lips flapped as they e'er did when he tried to brand a point. I'd finally settled on Chalice — he looked like Chalice from the Muppets. "If you were brain dead, your mom would simply keep you forever in a dorsum room drooling all over yourself! Wait at you lot now — you don't even accept your ain bed and they've been taking your disability money for months."

That was sort of true; once I had been established as disabled by Social Security, they started dispensing $775 a calendar month to me, an amount based on my previous W-2s and piece of work history. But I chose to give it to my parents — the insurance had covered the majority of the medical costs, but my mother had racked up hotel bills staying in San Jose. I handed the provided debit bill of fare for my disability benefits to my begetter and said, "For everything I've done."

Equally I explained this, Stanley's oral fissure quivered in a dumbstruck "O." Merely his horror and confusion only infuriated me; I had told him all of this before. He knew this — or should have. Did he ever heed to me?

"And did you say that?" I shot dorsum, restraining myself, but barely.

"Say what?"

"'If it got to that indicate?'"

"I didn't need to. That's apparently what I meant."

Stanley left the same week.

Heastward telephoned me in February 2017, more than than a year later.

By this time, I had finished my bachelor'southward caste by taking my remaining classes at UC San Diego, and I'd started working seasonal shifts every bit a production assistant at an academic publishing company. I took the train to work by myself. An centre surgery had corrected my double vision, and I no longer needed to close one eye or wear a patch to meet. On newspaper, I appeared to be a legitimate, operation developed, and no 1 asked virtually my aberrant gait or disability to write by paw.

Uncertain if I should answer Stanley'due south phone call, I watched his name manifest on my cell phone screen and blink away when I didn't touch information technology. A calendar month later on — I don't know if curiosity gripped me or if I hoped for an caption, or at least an apology — I chosen him dorsum.

"I was surprised to see you calling," Stanley said by way of greeting. "I took mushrooms and went to a actually night place and called you because I knew you'd make me experience amend. Do you recollect I'm OK?"

"What exercise you hateful?"

"Cassie."

"For someone who didn't exercise anything incorrect, you certainly are acting like yous did something wrong."

"Fuck, Brooke, I didn't practise anything!"

"Y'all ripped her pants downward — "

"I DIDN'T RIP HER PANTS DOWN. I PULLED THEM Down."

"Did you unbutton them?"

"What?"

"Did you unbutton her pants?"

"I don't know. What the fuck does that matter?"

"It does affair. It all matters. Y'all've tortured me for over ii years — do y'all realize that? Cassie told yous two months before my blow that what yous did was fucked upward, but she wasn't going to exercise anything punitive. And so — then — yous lied to my family and friends, maxim you lot were my beau to paint some sort of sympathetic narrative for some made-up situation you idea you lot were in — something that wasn't real. But what happened to me was real. Everything — my whole life — my whole life. And my whole life meant null to you … yous — "

"Wow," Stanley interrupted in amazement. "Your speaking — your speech is really expert. You could barely cord together a sentence earlier. You — "

"You!" I roared dorsum. "You lot stressed me out all of the time. Yous interrupted me. You yelled at me until I shook. I — " My voice cracked. I felt — all at one time — I felt pain. Regret. Shame. Remorse. "In the fourth dimension you've been out of my life, I've made such improvements," I continued in a near whisper, "… amazing improvements … if you had never been around … if yous hadn't forced your fashion into my recovery … " I trailed off.

"Y'all can't put that on me — I was going through something — "

"No." It was resolute plenty to brand Stanley autumn silent. "You went through nix. You did something very incorrect to Cassie. And me — you probably stunted the progress I could have made. I'll never know. Goodbye, Stanley."

Cassie doesn't hate me, but she should. At to the lowest degree that'southward how I experience about it.

Nosotros were able to see each other in person in 2017, then we talked on the phone in the summer of 2019. She's doing well, despite everything, and understands the emotional manipulation Stanley employed to go on me under his pollex. She's given me grace I'm not yet ready to give myself.

I don't know where Stanley is or what he's chosen to practice with his life. I hope he's done some self-reflection, but I uncertainty he has. The hold rape culture has on united states all makes it nearly incommunicable for genuine self-reflection to occur in these types of men.

My physical deficits are still an everyday part of my life, only I've come to have my inability. Ironically, the trauma of my accident, recovery, and new identity as a disabled person pales in comparing to the effects of Stanley'due south destructive presence. I'thousand suspicious of all romantic partners and don't trust the motives anyone purports to have. I'm distrustful and resentful. I go to therapy to discern which parts of my skepticism are warranted and which are pure paranoia. Even when I know, am painstakingly shown the truth, it doesn't feel real or 18-carat.

Despite this, I've developed a tenuous romantic human relationship — peradventure the word "situation" is more accurate — with an old friend who lives on the other side of the country. I think this is all I'yard capable of, and correct now, it'southward all I want. Maybe that'll change, merely for now, I'm grateful for my cognitive capabilities, the bulldoze to stay sober, and the lack of responsibility for someone else'south emotional stability — maintaining my own is quite plenty.

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